So my goal is to shut my
Let’s make a little self-revolution: Shut your face and love yourself.
Tuesday, June 09, 2009
Thing to work on #47,653:
One thing I have to admit is that I am super hard on myself when it comes to self-image. I never feel pretty enough, and I can’t seem to accept the imperfections about my body. Most of this insecurity came after my pregnancy with Jaxon, but when I really think about it- would I take back the pregnancy in order to have my pre-baby body back? NOT A CHANCE. Would I take back the pregnancy in order to have the hottest body in the world? NOT A CHANCE. So when it comes right down to it, I know it’s not important that everything is perfect. I also wonder why I give my own problem areas such concern when I don’t notice it in other people. I don’t look at someone else and pick apart their body. It never even crosses my mind to measure someone up like I do myself. My friends and people that I admire most in my life might as well look like Sasquatch- I’d love them just the same. It’s a sick habit to only see the negative in yourself when all you see is the positive in others. Why can’t we just treat ourselves the way we treat others? I can’t stand it when I hear my friends say they hate ‘this and this’ about their bodies, or they want to loose _____ lbs. All I can think is It’s not a big deal! Stop worrying! You’re perfect! ... Yet I never think to say those things to myself. Embrace... That’s what I need to do. Cause truly I’m so grateful for the body I have. A few years ago I would’ve given the world to know that I could grow a little baby in here. Now that I know I can, I just need to be thankful- because in the long run, my skinny jeans rank no where near the most important things in my life.
So my goal is to shut myfat face whenever I think about voicing yet another insecurity about my body. If my daughter were to pick that up from me, I would be mad at myself for the rest of my life. Cause I know she will be beyond perfect to me. So will you join me? When my friends start complaining about their looks I can’t help but get mad and say “Shut your face” (so tender, I know)… but really. We should all be more accepting of what we have (and what we don't).
Let’s make a little self-revolution: Shut your face and love yourself.
So my goal is to shut my
Let’s make a little self-revolution: Shut your face and love yourself.
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LOVE THIS POST! However, I won't shut my fat face until I lose this pregnancy/baby weight, but don't you think that should be an exception? :) But after that, I will join the revolution...promise. Maybe not in my skinny jeans, but I'll join.
YES! We should. I used to more obsessed than I am now about my weight. I think a big part of changing was time and getting older and basically realizing everything you just wrote. Besides, who likes to hear when someone says their fat? Whether they are or not, it's like, "Shut-up already." So let's.
It is about time...I kept wondering how a beauty like you could not see what we all saw...I hope someday more than just shutting your face you will love your face because we all do! But it is hard because I know exactly what you mean at the same time and I am guilty of it on a daily basis! But I can't see for life of me the imperfections you talk about on yourself!! So yes, embrace your beautiful self while we all try to do the same!
Your luck yours didn't start until you had a baby mine started when I was probably 10 maybe even younger. Even though I have always had this problem pregnancy has done a number on me, you would think after already going through this I would be okay but the reality of how bad I am going to feel in a few more months after knowing when I had Addi makes me want to cry. Actually I do cry often. Anyway thanks for the reminder though, and I totally agree about giving my daughters a positive self image, I would hate to rub off on my daughter, the world will do it to her with out my help.
I have been wanting to blog about this for the longest time because I have been so hard on myself lately...(always but especially lately). I know exactly what you mean and I am all for the challenge of shutting myself up. And just so you know, you are gorgeous and perfectly skinny- no need to worry whatsoever.
You are gorgeous. And I am the same way about myself, and I could very easily be worse. Ask Jeremy, he probably hears a complaint about every day and when I see really skinny girls I usually say "I hate her," even though I don't even know one thing about her. But I will try my hardest to be better!
Oh, and now I am going to go eat my brownie, ice cream, and hot fudge. Would I give that up for the perfect body? No way.
Oh, it's so cute and different to hear you use the term "my daughter." I'm so excited for you guys.
Just so you know, you are BEAUTIFUL!! I have always thought so. I know we all tend to pick out our imperfections, and I wish it would be that easy to say "Shut your face and love yourself." I will definitely try to work on that but, it's so hard when the world expects us to look like these models in a fashion magazine.
Well as everyone else has already mentioned... you are beautiful! Yes I think we are all hard on ourselves and I am so guilty of this. Something that always helps me when I am doing that is remembering those people who are actually really having a hard time..what I mean is like if you read NIENIE for example. I always have to do this about Brooklyn. I get really down that her neck isn't the way it should be..but then I read so many blogs of babies going through cancer or heart transplants and I think those Mom's would give anything for their baby to just have something wrong with her neck. So, It is ok to get down and feel discouraged... it is just what girls do i think. But just remember that you are GORGEOUS and every girl in school wanted to be you... I AM SERIOUS. It was like if we could all just measure up to Lara.... then maybe someone would like us! :) Love you!
thanks for this, I could have written it myself! I am definitely at the point that I'm wishing for my post baby body (at 9 weeks after giving birth)... I needed that reminder! I wouldn't trade a minute of my baby girl's life for my old body!
I CAN'T STOP! It's like I enjoy being mean to myself. I can't stop thinking about the pounds I need to lose, the clothes that don't fit, how I want my hair longer, how I hate my wardrobe, blah blah blah! I have this constant stress of wanting not to do these things and knowing I shouldn't and then beating myself up for doing it then doing it anyway! AHHHHH! Sometimes I wish I were a man:)
haha, so tender. I agree with, and most women feel that way, eh? You are beautiful- and I like what you said at the end. I think that is the biggest thing for me now- making sure my daughter doesn't pick up on that in the home (its going to be hard enough with her in the world as it is) cause she is beautiful.
I think everything you just said applies to every woman alive.. we always judge ourselves so much and hold ourselves up to these insane standards of what we "should" be when in reality we hold no one else to them because they simply aren't realistic. It's partly our fault for letting image become such a huge issue but its also all around us, the world says skinny is beautiful, and we buy into it. It's a whole emotionally distracting mess and it needs to stop. I agree. We need to appreciate ourselves and love ourselves... the problem is that it's so much easier said than done.
But I am so agreeing with what you're saying!
And your son is beautiful, absolutely perfect.
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